How to Get Back With an Ex
I remember how in the past, I used to be so hardcore about breakups .. people wanting to get back with an ex and not being able to move on with their lives. I would yell and scream at a friend to just get over it! Move on! And then it happened to me. I had a breakup. It tore my heart in pieces. I could barely function properly. My heart and my mind wouldn't allow me to date anyone else, or move on from my broken heart.
Fact is .. I wanted my ex back but I had no clue as to how to get back with my ex. I didn't think to search online for that information but sought out friends who would just yell and scream at me the same exact things that I had yelled and screamed at others years before. I guess advice is easy and free especially when you are detached from the outcome and when you have absolutely no idea what is really happening.
People breakup all the time. and sometimes these people just have a few obstacles in their way that is causing their relationship to sour. If there was no hope for a broken relationship, counseling would not be needed but as it stands, sometimes couples need a little guidance to get things moving in the right direction.
It could be that communication between two people needs improvement and they don't know how to effectively express their emotions for one another. Maybe one person thinks that they have lost interest in the other, only to discover that it's their fear that is causing them to run the other way. As people, we put up defenses sometimes when we get scared and love can do that to someone who is afraid to get hurt or someone who has been hurt in the past.
So wanting ones ex back is not just about being selfish .. for most women and men, the decision to wait it out, stay the course, is not a haste decision. The woman or man who knows what she/he wants and devices a plan to get the guy, or girl, is taking care of the matters of the heart.
If your friends and family don't understand or get the fact that you have concrete reasons to get your ex back, that is their problem. Now, having said that .. there is also a point when you have to move on despite the obvious. Fact is, your ex might really love you, but is unable to solely commit to just you. This happens a lot of the times in relationships. The woman, usually becomes the doormat and the guy tramples where he wants because he knows that she will always be there.
This is an unhealthy relationship and if the one who's doing the trampling is not willing to take an honest look at their actions and do the right thing, then this relationship needs a break. Maybe it will get back on track or maybe not, but one thing is for certain, you can not control the actions of another. It's one thing to say that you love someone but another thing to keep disrespecting that person over and over again.
If you're on this site in hopes of getting back with your ex, I hope that it's for all the good reasons that your ex and you are broken up and not because he or she is abusive in someway. The techniques and methods that you are about to discover really work, but you don't want to work on something that needs to be left alone.
I can't make that decision for you and my hope is that you seriously search your heart and soul before you venture down this road of making up with your ex. This course is not for everyone but only you will be able to determine if it's right for you.
So .. there are some things that you can do in the meantime while you are apart from your ex. In the video above, I discuss 3 things that you should try to do while you're missing your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Chill out / Breathe
Basically, recognize that the world hasn't ended. You're not dying and things will eventually get better. Trust me when I tell you, things will get better. Whether or not you ever get back with your ex, things WILL get better. You WILL see the sun again. You WILL laugh again, and eventually you WILL be able to wake up in the mornings and he or she will not be the first thought on your mind.
Love hurts! People go crazy during times of "love." People do horrible things in the name of "love." So, it's very important that you take a breather and not do anything except take care of yourself.
- Take Care of You
Do all of the best things that you could possibly do for yourself. Go to dinner by yourself or if you don't want to do that, cook dinner for yourself about every night. Chill out on the couch with Netflix and watch old movies. Go on long walks, listen to your favorite music. Basically, live your life as if you were in love with yourself. Take all of that energy that you had been sharing and giving to your lover, and shower it on yourself.
This is really important because what you think is gone is really still within you. The love that was ignited in you was already there and can't be lost unless you decide to throw it out. So my advice to you is to use that love on yourself. Don't play the victim role of thinking that you are unlovable just because your sweetheart doesn't see things your way.
- Don't immediately initiate first contact
Basically, wait a minute. You will be busy loving yourself and eating some awesome food so you will have time on your hands. allow your ex to miss you. don't come across as needy and dependent. Chances are they will miss you, too. It's natural ... especially when they begin to see that maybe they've made a mistake.
You will have our resources to help you during this stage as well. But my number one objective is to get you back to feeling your best and being your best while you wait on your best to come to you. That may or may not be in the form of your ex ..but if it's not, by then, you will be a changed person.
